Did I Just Lose My 'Soulmate'?

Did I Just Lose My 'Soulmate'?

As soon as a breakup occurs there are certain things that happen. The partner that did the dumping becomes angry and closed-off, while the other partner becomes convinced that they have just lost their soulmate and there will never be anyone as good and as beautiful as them.

It's an illusion that the chemicals in our body play on us. We were calm in the relationship, just drifting along and going with the flow. We weren't really trying to improve the relationship. We weren't 'working' at it at all. We were just letting it 'be'. 

Then the dumping (what a harsh word!) happens and 'bang' (THAT was a LOUD noise!) we are prepared to fight like crazy to get them back. It's the fear-of-loss and fight-or-flight response kicking in.

And(Yes. I started a sentence with 'and') all of a sudden we are determined that that one particular person out of 7 billion was our ONE SOUL MATE...which is most certainly not the case. They were one of a large number of potential 'soulmates'. 

Who even said they were your 'soulmate'? The chemicals in your brain that cause the medical state known as 'attraction' did.

There are 7 billion people on the planet. Obviously you don't get a chance with each of them but there are millions of soulmates for you out there. They're everywhere. You're literally surrounded by a sea of soulmates. 

So play it safe. 

Stay home .

Lock the door. 

Hide.

And then your soulmate will never find you. 

Do not despair.

You can get your ex back quite quickly. You just need a system.