I want my ex back, yet I don't want to lose my dignity. Can you have both?
Yes you can, and that's the only way you can do it.
If you manage to get your ex back you will have your dignity (or at least be doing a really good job of pretending you do -fake it until you make it).
If you lose your dignity your ex won't want to be anywhere near you, even if they do they will never think of you in a romantic way again. They want someone who has their dignity, someone who has a spine and a 'life'.
How do you know when someone has no dignity? It's fairly obvious. They'll probably be begging their ex to take them back - begging doesn't work.
People who have no dignity are also happy to throw their hobbies and career away to chase the one that dumped them, to chase the person that doesn't want them anymore. The fact that they had a hobby and career and a 'life' is what added to the attraction in the first place - back before they fell in 'love' and were a career-minded and hobby-minded person.
People want what they can't have. That's why advertisers use phrases like "for a limited time only" and "only six remaining stock". They're telling potential customers they don't need them. If those advertisements didn't work then corporations and companies wouldn't be spending thousands of dollars advertising to the general public how little they need them.
So what am I saying? Simple. If you want to get your ex back you need to advertise on television(just kidding). Pretend you don't need them. 'Act as if', as they say.
In the words of some salesperson,"fake it until you make it".
